uncoupling and the narratives of the self

Running Head : GUIDING AFTER UNCOUPLING

Co-Dependents Anonymous : Guiding After Uncoupling (Name (Institution (Name of Instructor (Course Subject

Abstract

The purpose of this work is to know what CoDA is , to know the different circumstances that draw people to CoDA , and to determine how CoDA relate and help these people . Another objective is to identify the system CoDA uses in to help people suffering from loss of self direction . By trying to understand the circumstances that revolve around the disruption of self-direction brought about by uncoupling , an analysis of possible courses of

action to avoid such human suffering is drawn . Based on the facts gathered , it is difficult to recommend an exact course of action to avoid such human tragedy

Co-Dependents Anonymous : Guiding After Uncoupling

After reading the first few sentences in chapter three of Codependent Forevermore : The Invention of Self in a Twelve-Step Group , I came across the word CoDA ' or Co-Dependents Anonymous (Irvine , 1999 My initial reaction is to ask myself what is CoDA ? The next question that immediately followed my mind , amusingly this time , is CoDA a dating group ? Am I eligible to join

Not until I read a few more sentences did I realize there is nothing funny on what I am reading . In fact , there is nothing more serious than trying to resolve the turmoil that uncoupling does to a person Uncoupling or breaking up of a relationship has many forms but all brought social and emotional disruption to a person (Irvine , 1999 ,

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Reading between the lines , I came to the conclusion that one of the general objectives of CoDA is to build up healthy relations by providing companionship to people suffering from disruptions as a result of uncoupling . Uncoupling , in turn , is the breakup of relationships usually resulting to separation or divorce (Irvine , 1999 ,

. 43 . Many who seek support from CoDA had multiple failed marriages and the average age level is forty to forty five . At this point , my interest in the subject shoots up . I can 't help but imagine what if it happens to me ? What shall I do ? Why do people get into those predicaments in the first place ? Is there a connection between age and the number of times having a failed marriage

According to the text , people who had undergone a divorce are more likely to encounter another one . The feeling of being free again provides the individual with renewed courage to enter into another relationship which , in turn , presents another opportunity for uncoupling (Irvine , 1999 ,

. 43 . I am not so sure it is correct to consider one 's previous divorce as basis of the probability to experience another divorce per se . However , it is my understanding that it takes time to develop a good relationship , and then realize the incompatibilities between the couple , arrange the divorce , heal the wounds brought by the separation , then start all over again . No wonder people who finally gave up and succumbed to feelings of exhaustion are already at...