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Christian Counseling Questions

1 . Humility - The counselor must be aware that s /he has probably not experienced the same horrors the client has , and must be appropriately humbled by the client 's experiences . Approach the client with respect as Jesus would

Restraint - Counselors need to allow their clients to take strides for themselves , rather than using their own expertise to run over the client 's own thoughts and wishes

Loving Service - Understanding that people may try to hide from you in their own ways , and that you must serve their needs

where they are at rather than forcing them into your way . Be gentle with your clients

Leadership - Lead by example . Don 't assume you can help a client to stop sinning if you are sinning in a similar way in your own life

As The Master Goes , So Goes the Servant - Lead your client through the depths of his life by being willing to go there with him , rather than avoiding the hard issues

2 . Static Risk Factors - Factors that can influence divorce but that cannot be easily changed once you are married . These include having lived together before marriage , having been divorced before , or having grown up with parents who were divorced

Dynamic Risk Factors - Factors that can influence divorce but which can be changed once you are married . These include poor fighting /communication skills , unrealistic beliefs about marriage , or having different attitudes about important things

3 . The family , in its social dimensions , reflects God - God is three persons in one , Father , Son , and Holy Spirit . The counselor must recognize that all families are one unit , too , with individual people (mother , father , children . The counselor must treat the family as a unit and preserve its sanctity before he can help any individual member of the family

Family health , individual health , and maturity are inseparably intertwined - People have learned their values from their families , and these ways may be alternatives to God 's way . These things that they have learned as individuals cannot be separated from their family identity , so the helper must look at the entire family history before helping any individual to mature . Individuals may be resistant to learning new ways of thinking or behaving if they run contrary to what they have learned through the family . If the counselor is to truly help , he or she must be sensitive to this problem before attempting to change an individual 's way of thinking

The family is also like the church - Families teach each other socialization and rules , much like the church does . The author says that families will learn to relate to one another as they do within the church . Family is the first place that people learn to get along and to work with others , and it is a safe haven . The church is also a safe haven for people

Trouble is reproduced , but can also be stopped , in families and generations of families - Sins are often repeated , generation after generation , as people learn to behave...