Women and Dating

WOMEN AND DATING

What is dating ? How do we understand it ? What are some of the reasons women date ? Whom should we date ? Where should we go for dating

What should we do on a date ? How far may we go in our touching and kissing ? Where do we draw the line ? How do we know where to draw the line ? These are questions we hope to tackle

Speaking of dating , it is just recent in origin , as no record in ancient writings about it . It is a development of the past few

hundred years in Western culture . Dating is defined as the middle stage in the process of finding a suitable mate . Usually , dating comes between being friends and getting engaged , so no define , establish , exclusive relationship yet

Women often send out conflicting signals about the seriousness of their dating . They look at it in different perspective . When they are confronted by their parents they often insist that dating is just "for fun " But to their confidant , on the other hand , they are more likely to treat dating as pretty serious business . Generally these conflicting signals reflect some of the confusions which they experience within themselves as they deal with and try to understand their own emotions Or often times they send a wrong signal if they were not sure if such dating would end up something to serious engagement or not . There is a wait and see trial

What is the purpose of dating

Women believe that there could be a point in it because it would prepare one to a real relationship . For it is assume to some degree that when you go out with someone with the intent of getting married . Like one could learn from her mistakes and get more idea of what good and bad things to do in a relationship

Though personally , women date to respond to the pressure that at a certain age , at least they have already been dated by somebody . At least when peers met , they have also their story to tell . And for those who are really use to it , just for fun and experience , and also to be proud of that she had gone through it several times already . But for others , it is really for seriously considering the right man for marriage . Hoever , if dating is taken without serious consideration to marriage Harris ,J ( 1997 ) said it can usually skip the friendship stage of a relationship , where one can really know each other in a real sense It also often mistaken a physical relationship for love if done carelessly it can also distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future

So there goes dating . Whom then should one date ? Will she just date anybody who proposes a date ? If for fun , yes . But may it never be , one needs not to count her fingers to be able to know the right man . Dating your best friend , whom you really know personally and had spent time in discussions , quarrel and able to reconcile , who disappointed her several times yet able to ask for forgiveness is the best and only man should one date . If one goes out for dating , it should be the person whom he /she had in mind to marry . The one whom to some degree has a personal knowledge already , and not just any caller . Playing games should be out of the question . Seriousness must be the game , and not trial and error

How far then the two should go if they date ? Will a woman just allow any form of physical intimacy apart from marriage ? The Bible is never against sex . But sex is designed within the marriage bed . If there has been no wedding , then love and sex become hostile to each other . If sex is done outside marriage it is usually done hurriedly and secretly under undignified circumstances . Thus the experience does not make love blossom and flower , but makes it wither away (Trobisch , W . In fact having sex before marriage does not make both one flesh , as they are alienated from each other and bitterness begins to creep in . Why not flesh ? Becausethey usually lack a purpose or a clear destination . In most cases especially when they are younger , dasting is a short term serving the needs of the moment . People date because they want to enjoy the emotional and physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment . For a man maybe , when they engage into it , it is a triumph , a victory , they can prove that they are truly man . Which then is very selfish . But to women who allow this in their dating , usually at the losing end . She lost her virginity , she might be pregnant , guilt will be following her . Besides , it is always a good thing to tell the children ones both are ,married , that they have never engage to physical intimacy not until they were both wed . The example they set , will warrant them to have authority over their children to encourage and instruct them not to engage in it . Beside the fact that a peaceful mind and a clear conscience without baggages in marriage is very commendable

BIBLIOGRAPHY

Harris , Joshua . 1997 . I Kissed Dating Goodbye . USA :Multnomah Publishers , Inc

Trobisch ,Walter . 1960 'I Married You . Austria : Baden-Baden .Editions Trobisch

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