Why do we befriend or fall in love with some people but not with others

Principles behind Loving and Being Loved 1

Principles behind Loving and Being Loved

What attracts a person to another yet repels him from another ? Is there any factual or psychological basis in choosing whom to love or whom to befriend ? Although it is an accepted notion that a love relationship buds after friendship , why then are there platonic relationships that exist and flourish

There are three different kinds of love , namely : 1 ) eros (erotic or sexual love or the love relationship that binds a man and a woman 2 phileo (philial

love or the love relationship that exists between brothers and sisters or parents and siblings not instinctual since it moved from the self and is based on a blood relationship or a group and 3 ) agape (considered as the highest form of love , a kind of love that transcends reason , one that is entirely selfless

For this purpose however , discussion will be limited to the first kind of love . To give us a better insight on this general phenomenon , we shall consider a psychological point of view as expressed in two distinctly related articles , namely : 1 ) Dr . Joyce Brothers ' Why We Love Who We Love (n .d ) and , 2 ) Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen 's What makes people fall in love (2008 . Both articles centers on what is called as 'lovemap '--a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes (Money in Brothers , n .d . Significantly , this love map , which is basically formed from our previous relationships...