Trees

In this chapter , Trees attempted to answer the question why do more than half of marriages in America end in divorce ? The author in this chapter used several analogies and studies to consider the issue of longevity in marriage and why this has eluded marriages in America . In his opinion the core of this problem is the fact that people get married thinking that it is the solution to all life 's problem . Several Americans have high expectations and are misled by the initial passion and love that becloud their relationship . Overtime , this

passion wanes , the infatuation clears and all that is left is a neutral feeling

According to Trees , going into marriage with high hopes strangulates marriages . This is because the weight of false expectations is too heavy for the love in the relationship to bear . The reed soon breaks and thus leads to a divorce . In his conception , the idea that couples are meant to be engulfed with affection when they marry and carry this ecstasy till they die is unrealistic . When compared with arranged marriages that grow in progression , the idea of passionate love from the beginning to the end is a myth

Trees used several studies and researches to convey his message However , of all the studies he used , I was most intrigued by the study that arranged marriages have more tendency to grow in love and enjoy longevity than the usual love struck marriage . This study shook the foundation of my belief as it pertains...