`Soul-Mate` Partnership

Partnership with One 's Soul-Mate

The idea of a soul-mate has ever been adhered to and contemplated by many young people of today both in getting into relationships and in deciding to marry somebody . Thus , people come in and out of relationships in search for their soul-mates - becoming involved with a partner that one hopes to turn out to be his soul-mate and then wanting to be out of the relationship when it is clear that it does not work which can also only mean that the other person is not his soul-mate

br Marriage eventually will be considered only when one thinks he has found his soul-mate

Authors Barbara Dafoe Whitehead and David Popenoe conducted focus group discussions among 60 unmarried men coming from four metropolitan areas with ages ranging from 20 to 29 , and representing a variety of religious , ethnic and family backgrounds . They found that most young adult men want to be married at some future time in their lives to the soul mates that they seek . The general definitions of soul mate are as follows : a woman with whom you are completely compatible right now someone you 're not put putting on a show for , and the one person you connect with (Free Republic webpage . It was also notably emphasized in the discussions that their soul mates would willingly take them as they are and would not try to change them . Thus , finding their soul mates becomes their only condition for getting married . They would wait , however long it would take , rather than settle for second best in their choice of a wife . Their current girlfriends and their live-in partners are , for the most part , regarded as plain second best partners while they get on with their search for their soul mates (Free Republic webpage

Similar results were reported in another recent national survey of single young adults . Ninety-four (94 ) percent agreed that when they do marry , they want their spouse to be their soul mate and eighty-eight (88 ) percent believed that there is a special person , a soul mate waiting for [him or her] somewhere out there (Carroll , Brigham Young University website

One term for marriage that has been gaining popularity is soul mate relationship ' which is then described as a private couple relationship whose main purpose is to promote the psychological well-being and emotional satisfaction of each adult (Whitehead Popenoe , NACFLM website ) Being married to her soul mate , for a woman means having a husband with whom she can have great and meaningful talks , who will spend quality time with her , and will give her love and affection

Young adults today are searching for a deep emotional and spiritual connection with one person for life (Whitehead Popenoe 6 ) It is a search that everybody seems to believe as a worthwhile pursuit of someone who really exists - one for each and every person in the world It is a fanatic ideal to stick to that will only work against the believer . Soul-mates are not prizes to...