Sex, lies and conversation: why is it so hard for men and women to talk to each other?

Sex , Lies and Conversation : Why is it so Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other

From the beginning of history of humankind gender differences have been one of the most fascinating s for the philosophers , and scientists Tons of books were written on this , and thousands of movies were filmed , but still , the secret of the relationship between men and women hasn 't been revealed . The only thing that all of those books , articles and movies achieved , is that nowadays people are certain that men and women are assumption

than males and females are different species , which need each other in to reproduce

It 's a obvious that language is one of the main means of communication humans use . Some researchers presume that it is language that creates most of misunderstandings between females and males . The reason is that men and women express their thoughts differently , using different verbal and non-verbal means

Let 's review the most licated example , a situation described in Samuel Shem 's book We Have to Talk : Healing Dialogues Between Men and Women . He writes about the workshop organized for couples to improve their communicational skills with the opposite gender . When the organizers of the workshop asked the group to break into the same-gender groups , people looked relieved . When , afterwards , they were given the task , groups of woman and groups of man behaved themselves differently men shook hands , sat down , and began to write their individual answers while woman started to talk noisily in small groups , laughing , and waving hands (1999 ,

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Analyzing this observation we can conclude that women are more into group decisions , while men prefer the individual ones . Moreover , woman express more emotion while trying to solve a problem , they have lots of associations connected with it , which they tend to express immediately Consequently , it is no wonder that the communication between the representatives of two genders is so complicated sometimes . The strategies of communication men and women use are different , so that it is not easy for them to understand each other

Nevertheless , an objection appears concerning the statement that man tend to talk less than women do . Deborah Tannen illustrated it in her article Sex , Lies and Conversation Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other ? She described the situation which happened in one of her workgroups . The group of woman invited men to join them , and throughout the evening , one man was particularly talkative , and his wife sit silently beside him . When in the end of the evening the author concluded that women frequently complain that their husbands don 't talk to them , this man agrees to her , and said that his wife was the a chatterbox in their family . The author concluded that "although American men tend to talk more than women in public situations , they often talk less at home . And this pattern is wreaking havoc with marriage (1990

It 's true that many women feel...