Self Love

Self Love

Jenny is fourth year high school student who always feels that she needs to prove something to everybody . She studies hard and is always attentive in her class discussion . She is always cautious in everything she does . She is very intelligent but very silent that most of her batch mates sees her as an intelligent , silent , and timid person almost to being a nerd . She wants to change her image and be more relaxed in conversing with everybody , and be involved in class discussion instead of just listening and absorbing

every class discussions . She does not have the confidence to speak out her view . She wanted to be part of the debate team but looses confidence and feels her knees turned into jelly when she think of speaking out her thoughts in front of the whole student body . Her professors always try to convince her to join debate and inter school quizzes but refuse them . They believe in her and her talents , but she thinks otherwise

One day , one of her professors approached her to take an academic scholarship entrance exam for college from a prestigious university However , with her how she sees herself , she refuses to take the suggestion . Her professor was determined to convince her , she asked Jenny to take her to a psychologist friend and help gain her self-confidence . Little much of her professor 's knowledge , there is a deeper reason why Jenny 's confidence is not developed

Her professor found out that Jenny was raised in an environment that caused her to doubt her competence and adequacy when she was just a child . In her emotional development process , her key influence was her parents stinging bite of disapproval and discouragements , criticism , and ridicule . According to Roy Baumeister , Self-esteem

fluctuates as a child grows . It is frequently changed and fine-tuned because it is affected by a child 's experiences and new perceptions Parents are responsible for their child 's self esteem development . A child who has low self-esteem may not want to try new things . He or she may frequently speak negatively about his or herself , saying such things as "I 'm stupid "I 'll never learn how to do this " or "What 's the point ? Nobody cares about me anyway " The child may exhibit a low tolerance for frustration , giving up easily or waiting for somebody else to take over . Children with low self-esteem tend to be overly critical of and easily disappointed in them . Kids with low self-esteem see temporary setbacks as permanent , intolerable conditions . A sense of pessimism predominates (96-101

A child who has healthy self-esteem tends to enjoy interacting with others . He or she is comfortable in social settings and enjoys group activities as well as independent pursuits . When challenges arise , he or she is able to work toward finding solutions . He or she voices discontent without belittling herself or others . For example , rather than saying "I 'm an idiot " a child with healthy self-esteem says "I don 't understand this...