Connecting, by Dr. Larry Crabb

After reading Connecting : Healing Ourselves and our Relationships by Larry Crabb , I thought to myself how wonderful this would be for ministers , pastors , priests or any individuals of spiritual leadership I felt the author wasn 't writing this book on a professional level rather a book for the average layperson to read . To me it was more of a motivational book rather than a professional textbook . When dealing with a client on a professional level of counseling spirituality does play an important component , if that client is a spiritual being Introducing spirituality

in counseling is something that has been given more attention recently and I do agree that one 's faith is very important to consider when counseling , but that it should be balanced I enjoyed the book very much , but thought that the reader should be somewhat skeptical of what the author was saying . For example , the part where there was a couple where the wife had become upset with her husband because of her feeling that she was unappreciated . The wife was urged by Dr . Crabb to release the good urges (p .16-17 . To me it was just a matter of the client seeing things in a different perspective and practicing this to achieve desired results

The connecting that Dr . Crabb believes in is the connection between individuals and the heart of Christ . He does believe that there is a power within every Christian that is just waiting to be released and not by the standard therapeutic techniques . He believes that through this awakening that Christians can heal their souls by just allowing God 's grace to flow within them and that counselors need to let the client see a type of caring coming from the counselor making them connect . I do agree with this , to some degree . I think it very important that a connection between client and counselor is vital for counseling to be effective . This point hit center when Dr . Crabb was sharing the story of his son and problems he was having with his child One day when he was again pointing out the mistakes and shortcomings of his son he realized exactly what he was doing and said , How can I help (p .4 . This simple phrase helped both to connect and gave the son a sense that his father really cared . When we look for the bad we must always be looking harder for the hidden good (12 ) truly words to live by

Dr . Crabb believes that counselors and clients should walk together as honest strugglers (p .99 . Not be just listeners but participants of the healing process . To me though I believe that a certain part of the counselor must remain objective and separate in for the counselor not to be swept into the realm of the client , which in my studies of counseling have been very important and stressed heavily . I do believe that some sort of connection is important but a limit on how far that connection should...