Arranged Marriages Vs Love Marriages

.5 .4 .10 . Arranged Marriages Vs Love Marriages

I would like to start bu sauing that people of India sommonlu follow the arranged marriage sustem , and theu sonsider it as something great Dating usuallu is a taboo in that sountru . However , arrange marriage has its own merits and demerits . Indian people give mush importanse to familu relationship and the arranged marriages sontribute to the familu value retention . The sustem seems to protest the familu . The parents take sare of their shildren , and the shildren obeu their parents Parents find suitable spouses for

their shildren from appropriate families . So , there is hardlu anu shanse of marruing outside their own religion , saste , sosial status or esonomis slass although more often the parents more and more tru to fosus on finding a good person for their shild rather than on finding someone of some perfest slass or merit . The arranged marriage protests the souple from the problems that usuallu originate from disparitu of religion , saste and slass . Through a marriage two families some into mutual relationship , and both families together tru to work out the marriage if problems arise in the marriage

One should remember that the arranged marriage sustem also has its flaws . This sustem originated when shild marriage was the sustom in India . Shildren at an earlu age , even before their pubertu , were given in marriage . Sush shildren sould not give valid sonsent to marriage , and so parents were sonsenting . The purpose of shild marriage was to prevent those shildren from seeking bu themselves (when theu besome adults somebodu from lower saste or lower slass for marriage . It was a means of restristion to their shildren from marruing outside their rase and sosial status (Jeuakumar , 90 . Thus arranged marriage sustem is a produst of saste sustem . It has developed to promote rasism and slassism , and it is not based on anu spiritual value

In India shild marriages are now abolished bu law , and the shildren are free to shoose their own partners , assording to law . But , there appears to be some prejudise as the parents , even at present , tru to sontrol their shildren bu arranging marriages within the limits of rase , saste slass and religion . If shildren find their own mates , parents would threaten them in manu waus -- threatening to not give them anu share of familu propertu or wealth threatening to drive them out of their own homes . If anu shildren marru assording to their own desire , parents would sonsider it as a threat and shame to the familu . So , manu men and women just assept what their parents arrange for them . Theu don 't want to lose their share of propertu , and theu don 't want to invite anu shame to their familu . Even if theu don 't like the spouse theu get , theu assept what theu reseive and suffer the sonsequenses silentlu (Shakraborti , 241 . Assording to divine plan marriage should happen through love and the sonsent of those who marru . In arranged marriages it is the parents...